Posted by Anthony (other posts) on January 24, 2017 at 06:14:42 Previous Next
In Reply to: A journey again, as long as I can :) ... [PIC] posted by yoshiki on January 23, 2017 at 15:03:05:
I think that quite a few of us are married and have, or have had, our difficulties. My own difficulties are quite painful, but I won't go into the details here. One thing many women have in common is the inability to accept their husbands as they are, but want the husband to "change" into the preconceived ideal husband. They want a "macho", but would perhaps be beaten and raped if they had a "cool macho"!
Your wife seems to have become more realistic and more tolerant of your hair. Many women are aware of the symbolism of long hair on men. Cut it and you've "got 'em"!
As I am finding with my own marriage, a man has to work on himself (with therapy if needed) and find out what his own problems are and what the wife finds hardest to understand. Then look at her problems and see to what extent they are aggravating the man's problems. The wife will have to make the choice between working on herself or leaving the marriage (to her disadvantage?).
My own wife is quite denigrating, saying that it should have had regular trimming, a euphemism of being limited to "pageboy" shoulder length. I just ignore her and she end up changing the subject. Just take it day by day, and make not wanting to go along with her agenda look like procrastination. It will wear her out in the end.