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A couple months ago, I caved in and cut my hair all off.
My husband was pressuring me and I folded. I was ambivalent about how I felt about it for a few weeks.
But now I wish hadn't cut it off. I just saw an old picture of me, and I looked great with it, way better than I thought I did at the time.
Well, here it goes again...
Hey CarpeMors,
It's great that you are a reborn long hair!
Send us update pics. I, for one, would like to cheer you on in your long hair journey and celebrate each milestone you reach.
Your long haired b
Thanks Raymond! It's still fairly short right now, but I will definitely post once it has a little length.
Cheers!
This kind of pressure, especially from wives and partners, is like the Jehovah's Witnesses or salesmen at the door who then jam their foot in the door as you're closing it. My wife is more resigned now, but the hints still come through. A couple of days ago "You're losing a lot of hair" as she presents me with a couple of hairs from the floor. She is losing a lot more herself and is fighting the loss with pills from the doctor. The implication is that my hair would be healthier if it were regularly trimmed and presumably as she wants it, a kind of "pageboy" style. Each time this happens, I immediately change the subject as for any other obsessive issues. Don't give an inch - insist on Imperial!
We have to be intransigent. It doesn't matter who the "other people" are, strangers or family, just clam up if they start. We just have to be ourselves and be confident. Then we won't commit this kind of error. Long hair surely builds up the will, character and personality in face of the corporate anthill "other people" represent.
We can accept other people in our lives when they are concerned for us and not their "whatever". We count a lifetime's friends on the fingers of one hand!
Good luck with the second growing...
Anthony
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Thanks for the kind words, Anthony
The pressure I have gotten from others has been manageable, and a learning experience, but the pressure from partners is a whole other level! He too says that he "doesn't care" and then later throws in an aside that I look better with short hair. Also lately, now that I've told him that I'm going to grow it back out, his attitude has been "well, you've cut it off before, it's just a matter of time 'til you cut it off again." Not very supportive, but that's okay, I don't need people's approval. Although, of course, being honest, I would love it if he was actively supportive instead of quietly pessimistic because he doesn't like it.
Cheers! Theo
My wife has recently said things about my hair no longer looking good because of diffuse thinning, which is due to age (I'm 58). However, I absolutely fail to see how cutting it would result in anything other than short hair that was still thin.
I reckon she is influenced by an older friend who is very conservative. The latter will be voting for Trump, but don't get me started, LOL! How a woman could vote for that guy ... ?
I don't know how a woman can vote for Trump, but my mom is going to do it, as is her best friend and most of their friends. We're living in crazy times, man.
In many cases it's not a vote for Trump, it's a vote against
Hilary.
Right. And the other side are voting against Trump. There isn't much love lost for either of them.
And to bring the subject back to long hair on men Donald Trump
is channeling George Wallace. The same George Wallace who ran for president all those years ago and often railed against
long haired men. At the age of 62 I remember that era. And of course the more people like him railed against long hair on men the more I was determined to keep my long hair long. It was a great era.
Speaking of Trump and hair...what on earth is that thing on his head? My personal opinion is that it's a dehydrated stoat.
I'll leave that to late night comedy folks.
Trump Donald
Ha. That made my day! :)
"you've got too much hair on your head"
That is a quote from 1968 from George Wallace. It seems that in
2016 a reality TV star is running a campaign for president that
duplicates George Wallace from 1968.
My husband too was saying that he didn't like my long hair, that it didn't look good. I'm very self-conscious about my appearance. That's probably the main reason I cut it. But seeing the pics that I had took, I saw it wasn't remotely that bad at all. I looked pretty descent. Now with short hair, I look like some random drone.
Also, don't get me started on Trump! Not only are his views disgusting, they are also highly variable. lol. I personally had a lot of enthusiasm for Senator Sanders.
Cheers, Theo
Good for you growing it again -----
People should learn to respect the wishes of their partner. For different subjects ---My wife will ask "what do you think", I say what I think. I ask her "what do you think", she tells me --- then we move on.
I had long hair when I met my wife so, it was her option to move forward with a long haired guy. We have been together 21 years and no problems with her.
I strongly believe people must do what they want, if a person does not ask an opinion --- people should never give their opinion. As each one of us has opinions, we can have some bad opinions to those that comment about our hair....
Bob
Thanks Bob
I have to admit to a certain amount of insecurity on my part. Me and my husband talked about it, and now I have a bit more backbone.
