Posted by Anthony (other posts) on February 02, 2014 at 10:12:25 Previous Next
In Reply to: Re: 16 months update posted by Mike on February 02, 2014 at 01:23:14:
Thanks for your kind words. I have to admit that I was cutting my hair for many years long after the times in my life when short hair was either mandatory or the "done thing" for boys.
One thing I love about this forum is that most longhair men are unselfconscious about it and just lead normal lives. I sometimes think about the "feminine" aspect, and we should remember that Carl Gustav Jung said that it was essential for our health to accept an reconciliation of "animus" and "anima" within each of us. In men, we do well to cultivate our intuition, gentleness, tenderness and softness. In terms of personality, I find my wife more "masculine" than I am - and I have always done boyish things like climbing trees, going fishing and sailing and doing woodwork. My own desire to have long hair is a part of this self image of softness and gentleness. I don't care if anyone thinks I look feminine. At the same time, I'm getting on in years and I don't think anyone would take me for a lady, even with hair trailing on the ground behind me!
Some people can react by being "camp". That's not my style, but I'm not afraid of not living for power and money, competition and dominance - but rather for the finer things of life. I saw a thread on this forum about how wives and girlfriends take long hair on a man. One word is "conventional" and the way women can be conformists. They respect us in the end for sticking to our guns and knowing what we want in life.
With my own wife, I had the experience with the "hoodie", a garment I love wearing even though it is associated with young men who do bad deeds. She hated the hoodie and wanted me to stop wearing it. Now she buys them for me and likes to give me something nice.
Sticking with what we have decided, in a question that does no harm to others, is our "masculine" side. I make it a point of honour to keep the hair growing - now that I have made the decision.
Anthony
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: Thanks Anthony. I read your blog. I too despised getting haircuts as a kid. I was forced to get what was called at the time a "crew cut" I always wanted to let my hair grow but was always pressured to get it cut. When I was older I tried to comb it so that it looked short, but it never worked. Over the years I have been told how femenin it is to have long hair. I have finally put my foot down and when I'm told I need a haircut I simply ignore the wisecracks. It's fun to see other men my age (59) who feel the same as me.